The Qur’aan. A book that every Muslim wishes to have that wonderful close relationship with where you cannot go a day without reading it, embracing its treasures and lessons and you turn to it constantly for reassurance, answers and comfort. The reality can sometimes be different. With the hussle and bussle of everyday life and all that it throws at you, and the constant swaying levels of our emaan; it can be hard to get a moment of peace and quiet. The kind of peace and quiet needed to really take it all in and truly reflect. Can it be difficult? Yes. Is it impossible? Absolutely not. After all Allaah ta’ala never made our deen as a burden upon us nor does He Jalla wa ‘ala give us more than we can handle alhamdulilaah.
For me personally, my relationship with the Qur’aan has been quite a journey. Sometimes moving at snails pace but a journey nevertheless. There are times where I felt that I could definitely have connected with it more and taken from it solace, peace and hope aswell as it’s warnings. Since starting to study Arabic my relationship with the Qur’aan has changed dramatically alhamdulilaah, the snail pace journey is no longer and has picked up some momentum but still a *slow* steady journey, which I’m perfectly happy with. After all small consistent deeds are more beloved to Allaah ta’ala right?
It has become more of a companion for me, one that only gives out its secrets if you work *hard* enough to get to know her and love her. One that gives you so much without asking or getting anything in return apart from your attentive mind and yearning heart.
I’m still at the VERY beginning of this beautiful journey with the Qur’aan and still have such a long way to go in shaa Allaah but im grateful for the opportunity that Allaah ta’ala has given me to even be able to build a close bond with His words on a deeper level. Alhamdulilaah thumma alhamdulilaah.
Through this journey, my routine or day to day activities at home has somewhat changed from what it used to be and Rayyaan has definitely picked up on it. He is seeing me slowly progress on this path and has a taken such a keen interest in it. He asks questions, he takes part, he even courages me Allaahumma baarik lahu by passing me the Qur’aan after each salaah. Although this is such a blessing which I’m undoubtedly grateful for, it is also something that makes me quite appregensuve and conscious of how I spend my time. In the sense that I know he is watching how I deal with the Qur’aan, like REALLY watching (and copying). He is seeing how often I read it and study it and how much time I give to the book of Allaah ta’ala. This is definitely something that keeps me on my toes and makes me think more about the examples I’m trying to set for him. It works well as a motivator when needed, in those times where shaytaan or laziness creeps and makes you want to slack or procrastinate.
Something that I have been trying to do for a while is look for ways to give Rayyaan the opportunity to build his own relationship with the Qur’aan from a young tender age. The Qur’aan is not age restricted nor is it only for a specific type of people. We don’t have to wait till they turn 7 years old or older, in order to introduce them to the Qur’aan. We just have to think of ways we can make the words of Allaah a part of their everyday lives and something that they naturally want to love, learn about and embrace.
I was really happy to come across this post by Dr Hesham. I love all his posts, alwyas positive, productive and creative. Here he has listed ways in which you can get your children to love the Qur’aan. I have included my own personal tip, something that works for my family at the end.
I pray whoever reads this benefits from it.
1. Tell stories. Sure everybody loves stories, and the Qur’aan is full of them.
Allah says: “We relate to you the best of stories” (12:3). Tell the story of Yusuf with his siblings (Surrah 12), Ibrahnim with his father (19:41-50) and Luqman with his son (31:13-19).
Children will certainly love it if say it in a lively and interactive manner.
Children also love animal stories and the Qur’aan has some of those as well. Tell about the initiative of the ant (27:18), the courage of the hoopoe (27:20) and the good company of the dog (18:18).
2. Inculcate one Quranic manner a week. the Qur’aan is also full of manners: e.g. honesty, fairness, and kindness.
Select one manner in which the family will together practice for a week. During this week, read about this manner in the Qur’aan.
If it was kindness, for example, read on kindness to parents (17-23). If about patience then read about the patience of Ayyub (Job) (21: 83-84).
You may use an index to identify a certain manner and its corresponding location in the Qur’aan.
3. Reward. Encourage the child to read the Qur’aan and reward. Kiss and hug when they read or memorize verses.
Show recognition and reward as a sign of good behavior. “I will forgive what you did today [name the bad behavior], because you read Suarh Yasin [the good behavior]”.
4. Engage with competitions and quizzes. Children love to ask questions, but they like quizzes too.
Ask questions like: how many parts (or juz’) are there in the Quran? Name three Prophets (or countries, animals, plants etc.) mentioned in the Quran?
Quiz while dropping to school, in a trip or when having dinner.
5. Connect to specific chapters. Use the fact that certain chapters have a specific value to encourage the child to read or memorize.
For instance, al-Ikhlas (Sura 112) is equal to a third of the Qur’aan and al-Mulk (Sura 67) defends and saves.
6. Protects and cures. My daughter was ill one day and had a headache. I put my hand on her head and read Al Ikhlas, Al Falaq, Al Nas and said in a voice that she could hear “O Allaah! Remove this disease and cure her. You are the Great Curer. There is no cure but through You, which leaves behind no disease.”
A child must take the medically prescribed drug when ill, but must also believe that Allah is the one who cures, and that this cure happens through his words in the Qur’aan.
Allah says: “And We send down of the Qur’aan that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe” (17:82).
7. Prayers: there are many Quranic prayers (duas) and remembrance (zikr) that if the child learns will connect to the Quran.
When in the car to school, for example, the child says: “Glory to Him Who has subjected this [the vehicle] to us, and we could have never had it. And verily to Our Lord we indeed are to return” (43:13-14).
Or prays when in agony or in distress by saying: “There is no god but You, Glory to You; verily I was one of the wrongdoers” (21: 87).
Such prayers help create a strong emotional bond between the child and the Book of Allah.
May Allah bless our children and open up their hearts to love the Qur’aan in this difficult and confusing time and age.
*TIP 8- MY OWN TIP*
– Create a designated Qur’aan time in your home. For us, after every salah works best. Allow your children to sit with you and you recite to them. If you are doing hifdh with your children, this is the perfect time to allow them to practice in shaa Allaah. Allow your children to hold a Qur’aan with english translation/transliteration and teach them to respect the Qur’aan and how it should be dealt with.
-Take turns. You recite a portion of Qur’aan and then ask them to recite their chosen soorah or portion. For younger children that don’t yet know how to read Arabic can recite from memory but holding the Qur’aan builds that connection with the book of Allaah ta’ala. Correct them as they go along.
-Do this after every salaah if possible and you will notice the habit develop *very* quickly. You will notice the amount of Qur’aan you read daily will increase as well as your longing and love for it. The way your children will view and love the Qur’aan will also positively change. They will be quick to get the Qur’aan ready for you after salaah eagerly and be quick to remind you if you forget (trust me on that). Overall you will notice the increase in barakah in your homes bi’idnillaah ta’ala.
-Even if you have very young children, sit them on your lap and include them. Make it a real family affair and familarise them with the words of Allaah.
-For those doing hifdh with young children and are starting with juzz ‘amma. I recommend you to recite all the short suwar before bed together with your child/ren. You will be amazed how quickly they pick it up and retain it.
May Allaah allow us all to be from amongst the huffadh and ahlul Qur’aan.